5 Fresh Ways to Cope with SAHM Loneliness
It’s hard to explain the odd sense of loneliness that comes with being home alone with a little one all day.
Wonder what the rest of the world is doing right now…
I find it hard to describe to my husband and my non-parent friends. It’s a loneliness that only stay-at-home parents or full-time caregivers could really understand. Even when my day flies by with a tiny person in my arms, somewhere between the feedings, burpings, and cleaning, all I keep thinking is: “Wonder what the rest of the world is doing right now?”
When you don’t have a Mommy Group or other support options easily available, use my list of go-to alternatives for fending off stay-at-home-mom loneliness.
As I write this, I’ve yet to discover a local mommy group that doesn’t have awkward membership requirements or formal “joining” sessions where you’re voted on by current members after a trial period. (…ugh? Isn’t that a little too high-school for grown-ups?!) That being said, I’ve never “tried out” for one with my daughter. I also don’t have a local on-call support system nearby. (Most of my friends have day jobs, and all of my family members are 2 – 11 hours away.) I’ve decided not to neglect my feelings these days, though, and each of these have helped me combat mommy loneliness at one point or the other. Hopefully, these will help you like they’ve helped me!
I realize this isn’t always possible. You may not have anyone you feel comfortable calling just to talk to about random things (or vent). That’s especially relevant when you consider you’ll likely be talking in between distracting cries from your baby or mind-numbing soliloquies by nearby singing toys. If you do have someone, I get that she may be at work and unavailable. But, if you have someone to call…call. Even if it’s just for five minutes, you’ll feel a little bit better.
Go to town.
That’s right. Load up the kids and start driving. Even if you have too many to actually get out of the vehicle while keeping your sanity, you’ll still feel a sense of freedom in “getting out.” And that includes even just driving around your subdivision.
Turn on the news or the radio.
Sometimes, you just need to hear adult voices in your house.
Open the windows, or better yet, go outside.
Fresh air and sunlight are great for both you and your babies. And, like a number of books I recommend state, going outside can be like a reset button for your kids’ moods. (Yours, too!)
Text your hubby or a friend.
Sure. The hubby may be at work. Your friend might not get back for a few hours. But, whatever. Eventually, they’ll get your text and reply. Another option is to start a chat thread with your other mom friends, your extended family, or other people who might “get” where you are in this season of life and help you embrace it. I use Google Hangouts to keep in touch with my parents, sister, and hubby all in the same group chat.
Don’t stay lonely for long, Momma.
We were created for community. Find your own personal activity that’ll recharge you when the loneliness strikes, but no one’s available to help you combat it. Better yet…find community so you have other mommy friends you can reach out to throughout the day! (This is something I’m still working on myself. Consider us both challenged.)
See the BONUS section below for ideas on where to start!
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BONUS: I’ve discovered a few places near me that host a great event or two either weekly or monthly for moms and their kids.
Baby gets play time…and momma gets to socialize! Look around for places that offer similar activities near you. Most are free or inexpensive to attend. (I’ll write more about this later, so stay tuned!)
- Local parks or gardens – outdoor exploration classes
- Public libraries – fun storytime readings
- Children’s museums – playtime with age-appropriate educational activities
- Art galleries – themed craft projects
- Local churches – parent-and-kid activities
If you’ve got something to add, pull up a chair and tell me in the comments below, darlin’!
In the meantime, cheers to another great Momday.
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